September 21, 2014
Experts say there is one true way to gauge the strength of a marriage.
Children being born? Dealing with a crisis? Consulting with a counselor?
Perhaps. But if you really want to measure if the union of matrimony is held together with a steel bond, try building a new house.
If a marriage can survive a big home construction project, it can be good to go for the long haul.
There is something about going through the rigors of selecting it all. Design. Furniture. Kitchen colors- and everything in between. The exercise tends to cause couples to retreat to neutral corners and come out fighting. Husbands want a Man-Cave. Wives want a custom kitchen. Dealing with a myriad of sub-contractors only adds to the agrivation. Everything has to be woven in concert, and it only takes one hickup in the chain to throw the entire schedule off.
And when the project is finaly almost completed, there is always second guessing. "Should we have gone with the mauve instead of the beige?...."Why didn't we think of a walk-in closet?"...."This bathroom really isn't big enough!"
In time, if the wedded bliss of marriage has not gone completely south and if Dr. Phil has not phoned to request an appearance, chances are John and Jane will have more than adequate armor to withstand any subsequent arrows ( or nail guns) that may be fired in their direction.
Presently the Bradford football program is feeling the pain of the beginning stages of a long construction project. At 0-4, the foundation is still being poured and it is difficult to envision the day when the walls will go up. There is nothing really exciting about constructing foundations. They are bland and colorless. They eventually become hidden. However, without the strong foundation the house will not withstand the winds of storm.
Corey Green is currently knee-deep in concrete. No doubt he wishes the construction project was farther along, but it is what it is. If he can calmly work in concert with all of the sub-contractors that play a role in the building of the Tornado program, there is every reason to believe that one day we can all chuckle at the thoughts of the challenges we once faced long before the 2x4's began to take shape.
Who knows? By then maybe the Man Cave will have a few new trophies hanging on the wall.